Using Your Senses to Find Your Soulmate

Beauty is subjective. When it comes to deciding whether someone is beautiful--and yes, men can be beautiful too--some people only consider others' physical characteristics including their eyes, nose, smile, facial bone structure and body type and shape. Some people consider others' style and demeanor, such as whether their personality exudes confidence, persuasiveness and other admirable qualities. Some people consider others' temperament, such as their kindness, generosity, thoughtfulness and caring nature toward people.

While there is no universally-defined measure of attractiveness of all human beings. there are at least five universally-defined human senses. They are smell, touch, taste, hearing and sight. Let's discuss how people may use each of these senses to decide if they consider someone to be attractive, desirable and a possible soulmate.

Smell: Think about which smells arouse you and make you lean into them for more. For the most part, it seems society expects women to smell dainty and sweet like fragrant flowers while society expects men to smell...well... not sweet. Human pheromones are defined as "airborne chemical signals secreted from sweat glands and bodily fluids—particularly in the axillary (underarm) region—that can subconsciously influence behaviors, emotions, and physiological responses, such as mood or attraction, in other individuals." You may not even realize why you're attracted to someone, but maybe it's your pheromones at play.

Touch: Some men expect women's skin to feel soft, smooth and delicate to the touch while some women expect men's skin to feel hairy and muscular to the touch. Whatever your preference for body type is, touching someone and being touched can be sexy and arouse sexual desires between two people. If you've ever had a massage from a significant partner, you probably know the intimate pleasure of having the tension rubbed out every part of your body. The sensations can make your emotions spike to levels never reached before.

Taste: Some people are ultra-sensitive to taste. Their reflexes quickly react when something tastes too sour or too sweet or too salty, and they smile with glee and satisfaction when something tastes pleasing with the right balance of their favorite ingredients. People can taste other people intimately. The next time you're having foreplay, experiment with edible body oils and lick each other from umm head to... toe.

Hearing: Everyone has a natural volume and pitch when they speak. The sound of people's voices can range anywhere from a soft whisper or low mumble to a booming holler or fingernails-on-a-chalkboard shrill. Think about what sounds arouse your senses. Have you ever known someone whose laugh was so peculiar that it made you laugh at their laugh? Or have you ever heard someone sing and their voice was so intense that it made you cry or feel other overpowering emotions? The ability to hear is an amazing gift. When you're looking for a soulmate, tune into not just what people say, but how they sound when they're saying it. Undoubtedly you'll want someone whose voice is pleasing, or at least tolerable, to your ears.

Sight: Attraction between humans largely depends on whether one finds another's facial and bodily features and overall appearance appealing and desirable. If you're searching for a romantic partner and find a potential mate's appearance to be repulsive, the chance for romance probably ends right there. On the other hand, if you're searching for a mate and find a potential partner's appearance to be beautiful or handsome and sexy, most likely you'll want to pursue a connection to get to know them better, which may lead to a long-lasting dating relationship and ultimately marriage.

Don't just consider a potential mate's facial and bodily appearance. Go in with the assumption that this person will never change anything about himself or herself from the first day you met. Ask yourself, could you stand looking at that same hairstyle, makeup style (including long fake tarantula eyelashes), and extreme personal preferences for the rest of your lives together? Could you stand looking at their fashion style--or lack thereof--forever and would you be embarrassed being seen in public as a couple? Beware gentlemen, you may be attracted to a woman's curvy voluptious figure in low-cut cleavage-revealing tops and skintight booty shorts now, but if this were your wife, would you be okay with her exposing her goods to other men?

Regardless of your strategy for finding your soulmate, rely on your senses to help you narrow down the search. Even if you don't have use all five senses, go with your instincts. Beauty is only skin deep, so remember to look underneath the surface.

Written by Lady T